Sex-Positive Communication Guidelines

How to Host a Discussion Group on Sex in our Politically Correct Era!

Any open discussion about sex and society will often bring up issues of race, culture, gender, orientation and other ‘hot button’ issues.

In our Portland Discussion group we try to create a safe container for participants to feel comfortable enough to communicate freely with differing political views, religious beliefs and sexual orientations.

We manage this discussion group under the following guidelines:

Personal Politeness

Anyone is free to say what makes them feel personally uncomfortable. As a polite community of individuals, we adopt a policy of personal politeness and respect for individual feelings.

Personal Responsibility

While a word or expression is offensive to one person that does not mean it is offensive to others of the same demographic. People can speak from their personal experience. However, it is important to make the distinction between taking personal offense and taking offense on behalf of a group. ‘Trigger Words’ are personal! Nobody can claim to be a ‘spokesperson’ for their demographic!

For example, Mojo, the founder of this group, can speak AS an Indian male. However, he cannot speak FOR Indian males!

The subtle distinctions between politeness, personal responsibility and free speech allows a diverse group of participants to feel comfortable expressing themselves and sharing their views. Honest meaningful conversations can challenge our beliefs. In many cases, personal growth and development emerge from these free-flowing uncensored conversations.

Free Speech & Negative Intent

  • Criticism. If a person criticizes some aspect of another’s demographic it can be deemed as prejudiced but is not necessarily so.
  • Humor. If a person makes a joke at the expense of another demographic it can be deemed as prejudiced but is not necessarily so.
  • Ignorance. If a person makes a comment that shows complete ignorance of another person’s demographic it can be deemed as prejudiced but is not necessarily so.

An important key that defines prejudice is negative intent. Of course, intent is hard to prove. But as we get to know people we often can ascertain their intent when they make comments that are critical, joking or show ignorance of a demographic group.

We try to create a safe space where participants can politely communicate freely without being attacked as prejudiced if they say a ‘trigger’ word.

Guidelines for Participants

We live in a politically correct world that sometimes stifles honest conversation. And sex is one of the most politically incorrect subjects there is!

Our purpose is education and communication about the sensitive subject of sexuality. In order to do this we create a ‘safe container’ for open friendly discussions:

  • We respect this safe space for open discussion.
  • We engage in our right to free speech.
  • We agree to be polite and not tolerate hostile language or behavior.

This is a social meetup. There will be a few minutes of before and after time so that participants can chat over snacks.

If participants bond with mutual consent that is fine. However, this is not a dating meetup.

Our goal is for participants to enjoy this discussion while learning something new! Sex is a fun and funny subject. Don’t be afraid to laugh!